Some things I have learned from leading socially

A few things I have learned about dancing, by regularly dancing both roles socially for two or three years. My experiences may or may not be in common with anyone else.

• There is a tremendous range between OK, good, and great followers, of which they are almost all totally unaware.
• Leading poor followers is very difficult; it requires a range of skills, resilience, and physical training.
• Leading OK followers is fun, especially if they are interested or enthusiastic and easy to be with.
• Leading good followers is more fun, especially if, etc.
• Leading great followers is amazing, and you don't feel like you have to do anything, and whatever you do do is totally effortless.
• There are a lot more than those categories.
• Don't bother raiding the cool guys' “harems”, they're disappointing, dance-wise.
• In a good ronda, under good physical conditions, with good followers, leading is cognitively much less demanding than following. The difference is dramatic. Getting the basics to a good standard is quite a lot of work, but if you can do that and then stay within what you've mastered, good and great followers will dance with you, and it is effortless.
• It is possible to flirt with the table of glamorous Dutch lesbians through the medium of another woman's body.
• There exist men who are both hot and good followers. Hang on a minute –